Ground Rule Two: Limit Contact
One area where you need to be very strict with yourself, is contact. Whatever you do, don't harass your ex. This will definitely drive him away from you.
Instinctively you want to call him, because you want things to get back to how they were between you two.
And to get back together, you first need to make contact, right? Right..?
Wrong! Please, in your heart you already know this.. Don't call him! After a guy breaks up with you, he will regard your repeated phone calls as "stalking" or "harassing" way sooner than you think!
And even more important: Since you are giving him confirmation that you still think about him, he will not feel any pain of missing you. This is definitely not helping to get him back! So whatever you do, don't call him (unless you have your plan to win him back all laid out, more about that later).
If you have difficulty fighting the urge to call him, then try to keep your focus on your goal: Getting your boyfriend back in your arms! Try the psychological exercise that we did before. Like with most things in life, if you keep the end result in mind, it will just be so much easier!
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