Ground Rule One: Be strong!
However heartbroken you feel, trust me, your ex boyfriend is not going to want you back if you show him that you are miserable and/or needy.
You probably have the urge to let him know just how terrible you feel, and how much you miss him, so that he will feel.. ehm... Feel what? Pity..?
A guy doesn't fall for a girl out of pity, ever! You'd be amazed though,
how many women try to use this "tactic" to get an ex boyfriend back. Please don't be one of them! To get your ex boyfriend back, you will have to be confident and strong! Girls, I can not stress this enough.
A guy doesn't fall for a girl out of pity, ever! You'd be amazed though,
how many women try to use this "tactic" to get an ex boyfriend back. Please don't be one of them! To get your ex boyfriend back, you will have to be confident and strong! Girls, I can not stress this enough.
A Little Psychology To Help You To Be Strong
By now you may be thinking "OK Essy, easy for you to say, but I just feel terrible! How can I act confident when I feel as rotten as I do?"
Well of course acting confident can be difficult right now, because after a breakup your self esteem may hit a low point.
Try this little psychological exercise for a minute, it's really helpful:
- IMAGINE how it will be when you are back together with your boyfriend. Not like in a memory, but in the future.That part is very important.
- EXPERIENCE how it feels to be back together after you have been apart all this time.. Really feel his arms around you again..Feel his love in how tightly he holds you.. Hear the sweet things he whispers in your ear... How happy he is that he and you are together again.
Now realize yourself (and make a mental note right now) that many couples get together after a breakup, every single day! This is not just a fantasy, you can achieve this goal if you put your mind to it!
People get back together after the most horrible breakups.. Even lots of people that shouldn't be together, still get a second (or third) chance.
Why? Well it's just a matter of biology and psychology.
- BIOLOGY: It's the chemistry between the two of you. If it "felt right" it probably was right, as far as mother nature is concerned.The two of you share a strong connection, so it is probable that you can make "good" babies together. And your (and his) body picks up on that.
- PSYCHOLOGY: This one is more complicated, and this is where you can put your magic to work.. Psychology is actually pretty simple if you know what you are doing. The only problem is, people act in the wrong way to get their results, and mess up their chances in the process. However, if you KNOW what you are doing, you can play your ex's feelings like an instrument.
He is still tied to you biologically. You have been together, right? So this shows that he and you are a biological match. The problem you are facing right now is psychological, which means that you can overcome it with the right strategy.
I am convinced that in most cases, if you want it hard enough, you can get your ex boyfriend back! You just have to be strong and smart about it!
OK, I hope that by now you know that you do have a good chance to get your ex boyfriend back. You only need the right information on what you should do and should not do. So let's continue.
